When my 2 eldest children were entering teenhood, I felt like I was about to lose them.

They were becoming more distant.

They stopped talking as much.

They wanted more space.

They made decisions I didn’t always agree with.

Sometimes, they’d nod while I spoke… then go and do something entirely different.

And I wondered, "Why don’t they listen anymore?"

“Do they not trust me?”

“Am I failing as a mom?”

But good thing I checked up their Type when I discovered Human Design. And everything softened.

You see, I’m a Projector. They’re Manifestors. (What are the chances when Manifestors are only about 9% of the population? And I have 2?!)

And when I learned that, so many things fell into place.

Manifestors are designed to be independent.

They’re not wired to ask for permission - they’re here to make their own decisions, carve their own path and move when inspiration strikes.

They don’t need (or want) constant guidance.

They need freedom.

They need trust.

And they need space to learn through their own process.

And actually, I could see all that. Just that I was taking their distance more personally. But once I understood their design, I realised it was just them being exactly who they're designed to be.

It wasn’t rejection, disrespect or lack of love.

I saw that their sometimes frustrating traits - decisiveness, stubbornness, wanting space - were also what make them courageous, self-directed and bold.

I didn’t need to fix them. I just needed to understand them.

So I shifted how I showed up as a mom.

Instead of lecturing, I started listening.

Instead of pushing, I began trusting.

Instead of micromanaging, I stepped back and gave them space.

And I felt more connected with them because I understood their nature, not in spite of it. And that understanding strengthened our bond, more than before.

On hindsight, I saw that Human Design gave me a new lens. A deeper compassion. And the reminder that parenting isn’t about control - it’s about connection.

If you’ve ever found yourself wondering why your child is so different from you…

Why your usual parenting tools don’t seem to work…

Or why your heart hurts even though you’re doing your best…

My dear, you’re not failing.

You might just be parenting someone who’s wired completely differently.

And Human Design can help you finally see that - and respond with so much more grace.

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