December 2009. I'm sitting in a traffic jam in the middle of the Christmas rush, eating ToriQ in my car, wishing I was anywhere but there.
My life looked perfect from the outside. I had a business, a family, everything I was supposed to want. And I was deeply, quietly unhappy.
The guilt of that feeling nearly broke me.
How dare I feel this way when I had so much?
That moment cracked something open in me - something I couldn't put back.
I'd left corporate after my second child was born. Over the next 15 years I tried everything - retail, distribution, online retail, network marketing, online coaching. I wasn't really succeeding, not in the way I'd imagined. But I kept going, because I believed something I couldn't quite articulate yet:
Every woman deserves a purpose beyond being someone's wife, someone's mother, someone's daughter.
I watched my own mom pour everything she had into our family. She was selfless in the way that generation was taught to be - and she had almost nothing left for herself. I loved her deeply. And I consciously chose a different path.
What I didn't know was how much I'd internalised her patterns anyway.
I pushed harder. I woke up earlier. I followed the productivity systems and the business blueprints and the morning routines. I did everything the "right" way. And I still felt behind, disconnected, exhausted - and utterly unlike myself.
In 2010, I walked into a Landmark Forum. That was the beginning of 16 years of inner work that will never make it onto a highlight reel - the unglamorous, necessary kind that slowly returns you to yourself.
Years later, it was grief that brought me to Human Design. My father passed away, and in that season of loss I stumbled across something that quietly rearranged how I understood myself. Not as a personality test. Not as a religion. As a lens - a practical tool for recognising why I was designed to operate the way I do, and why trying to be someone else had been costing me so much.
I'm a 6/2 Splenic Projector. I'm not built to push and hustle and go. I'm built to see, to guide and to wait for the right invitation.
No wonder every system built for someone else had left me depleted.
I'm a Singaporean mum of three - my children are 11, 18, and 20 - and I've lived every season of the juggle. The guilt. The comparison. The quiet loss of self that happens so gradually you don't notice until one day you're sitting in a traffic jam wondering who you've become.
I only coach what I've personally lived through. That's non-negotiable for me.
The work I do with mompreneurs is built around two things I developed from my own journey:
A three-part process of becoming Aware (recognising your burnout patterns and rediscovering how you're actually designed), Releasing (letting go of the guilt, the conditioning, the endless "shoulds"), and Coming Home (returning to your authentic self so you can make decisions from a place of real inner authority, not fear or obligation).
The sequence that I believe changes everything: Self first. Then family. Then business. In that order. Always. Because you cannot pour from a place you've abandoned.
Human Design is one of the tools I use inside this work — not my identity, not a magic fix, but a genuinely useful map for women who are exhausted from trying to live like someone they're not.
Not a louder, more optimised, more productive version of themselves. Themselves.
If you've been doing everything right and still feel like something essential has gone missing - this might be the place to start.
If this resonates, I'd love to connect.
For the mom who's doing everything right - and still searching for herself. 🌿
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